Cutting Loose: Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well. Paperback. Reject ill-fitting roles and societal expectations. In hetero marriages, women initiate divorce 3/4ths of the time and most report greater happiness afterwards. This book helps you face fears and understand the process of divorce - and its shortcomings. Issues of custody, finance, sex, self-esteem, and more are addressed clearly, using the experiences of 50 women of different races and classes.