June 05, 2024

Dispelling Myths About Sexual Health: Let's Get Informed!

By Jaime Jaynes
Dispelling Myths About Sexual Health: Let's Get Informed!

Hey Folks!  It's time to shed some light on common myths swirling around sexual health and wellness. At Vespertine Boutique, we're all about empowerment through knowledge, so let's dive in and debunk these misconceptions together!

Myth: Aging Means the End of Sexual Pleasure 

Contrary to popular belief, age doesn't diminish our capacity for sexual pleasure. While physical changes may occur over time, such as decreased hormone levels or changes in sexual function, intimacy and pleasure can still be enjoyed well into our later years. Open communication with partners, exploring new forms of intimacy, and seeking support from healthcare professionals can help navigate these changes.

Myth: STIs Only Affect the Younger Generation

STIs do not discriminate based on age. In fact, older adults are increasingly at risk due to a lack of comprehensive sexual education and lower rates of condom use. Regular STI testing and practicing safe sex remain crucial for sexual health, regardless of age or relationship status.

Myth: Sexual Health Concerns Are Just a Normal Part of Aging

While certain sexual health issues may become more prevalent with age, such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal dryness, they are not inevitable nor should they be ignored. Many conditions can be treated or managed with the help of healthcare professionals. Seeking support and exploring treatment options can improve quality of life and sexual well-being.  At Vespertine we carry multiple products that help improve various circumstances.

Myth: Masturbation is Only for the Young

Masturbation is a natural and healthy activity that can be enjoyed at any age. It offers a safe way to explore one's body, relieve stress, and maintain sexual function. Embracing self-pleasure can enhance sexual satisfaction and promote overall well-being.  We encourage a life-long relationship with your own body!

Myth: Aging Means Settling for Less in the Bedroom 

 Aging does not equate to a decline in sexual desire or satisfaction. With age comes wisdom and an opportunity to explore intimacy in new and meaningful ways. By prioritizing communication, intimacy, and self-care, older adults can continue to experience fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationships.  For more advice on this topic, we recommend the book Naked at Our Age - one of our most popular at Vespertine. 

Myth #6: Older Adults Don't Need Birth Control 

While fertility may decline with age, it's still possible for older adults to conceive. Whether you're sexually active and not looking to conceive or engaging in intimate relationships with a new partner, contraception remains important. Discussing birth control options with a healthcare provider can ensure you're making choices aligned with your needs and preferences.  

Myth: Sex Shouldn't Be Enjoyed After Menopause 

Menopause marks a new chapter in a person's life, but it doesn't mean the end of sexual pleasure. While hormonal changes may bring about physical changes like vaginal dryness or decreased libido, there are numerous ways to adapt and continue enjoying intimacy. Lubricants, hormone therapy, and communication with partners can help maintain sexual satisfaction and comfort.

Myth: Older Adults Aren't at Risk for Sexual Assault or Abuse

Sexual assault and abuse can happen at any age, including older adulthood. Factors such as living in long-term care facilities or being dependent on caregivers can increase vulnerability. It's essential to recognize the signs of abuse and seek support if needed. No one deserves to experience abuse, regardless of age.

Myth: Erectile Dysfunction is Inevitable with Age 

While erectile dysfunction (ED) becomes more prevalent with age, it's not an inevitable part of aging. ED can be caused by various factors, including medical conditions, medication side effects, or psychological factors. Seeking medical advice and exploring treatment options can help address ED and restore sexual function.

Myth: Older Adults Aren't Interested in Sexuality or Intimacy 

Age does not diminish the desire for intimacy and connection. Many older adults continue to enjoy fulfilling sexual relationships and seek out opportunities for intimacy and companionship. Recognizing and embracing one's sexual desires and needs is a natural part of the human experience, regardless of age.

Myth: You Can't Get STIs from Oral Sex 

Contrary to popular belief, STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) can indeed be transmitted through oral sex. Herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, and even HIV can be passed on through oral-genital contact. Using protection like condoms or dental dams during oral sex can significantly reduce the risk.  We particularly love Lorals, which are wearable latex panties approved by the FDA to prevent STI transmission.

Myth: Only Promiscuous People Get STIs 

STIs don't discriminate based on the number of sexual partners someone has. Anyone who is sexually active can contract an STI, regardless of their relationship status. Regular testing, open communication with partners, and practicing safe sex are crucial for everyone, regardless of their sexual history.  

Myth: Birth Control Pills Protect Against STIs 

Birth control pills are effective at preventing pregnancy, but they offer no protection against STIs. Condoms are the only form of contraception that can help reduce the risk of STI transmission. Combining both condoms and another form of birth control provides the best protection against both pregnancy and STIs. We recommend condoms by Glyde

Myth: STIs Always Come with Symptoms 

Many STIs can be asymptomatic, meaning they show no noticeable symptoms. Just because you or your partner don't have any symptoms doesn't mean you're STI-free. Regular STI testing, especially if you're sexually active with multiple partners, is essential for early detection and treatment.

Myth: Masturbation is Harmful or Abnormal 

Masturbation is a completely normal and healthy part of human sexuality. It's a safe way to explore your body, relieve stress, and learn what feels good for you. There's no shame in self-pleasure, and it doesn't cause any physical harm.


Let's break down these barriers and promote sexual health awareness!  If you have any questions or want to learn more, don't hesitate to reach out to us. Remember, knowledge is power, and together, we can create a more informed and empowered community. Stay curious, stay safe, and stay sexy!  

Contact us at info@vespertineboutique.com with questions or stop by our store at 914 Water Street in Port Townsend.

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